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Why are there so many more submissive men and so few dominant women? What effects do you think that this has overall? I think that there is a huge disconnect going on here that le to an illusion of an unfavourable ratio of dommes to subs.

A submission fetishist is a person who enjoys the actions that they view as submissive, but often want them done in a specific way, following a certain order by a woman dressed in a particular way, etc. In calling oneself a bottom, instead of a submissive, it indicates a play role more than a power exchange role. Dommes who are looking for a power exchange relationship will know that they are not compatible. Accuracy in labels is important for getting what you want — since labels open the door to a more in-depth conversation about wants and needs.

However, without any agreed-upon definitions of the various labels in BDSM, it there can be issues in communication. The idea that there is a skewed ratio of dommes to subs also stems from where people are looking. If dommes subs are online, dommes subs can seem to be an overwhelming of male submissives.

Some of this is down to the labelling issue, but there is more to it than that. Online spaces tend to be male dominated, to begin with, and are generally not safe spaces for women. When you look at kink websites, there is a larger of men of every orientation. Dominant women complain about being inundated with crass private messages, crude comments on photos and general harassment from many male submissives, with younger, more conventionally attractive dommes getting the worst of it.

Keep in mind that these same dommes may also be fielding private messages from male dominants doubting their orientation and demanding submission. In response to this hostile environment, many female dominants have changed their orientation label to something more neutral or left these sites altogether.

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This creates an artificial shortage and creates the appearance of a low ratio of dommes to subs. Many others prefer to lay low, finding that the messages and other unwanted attention get worse when they are visibly active on the site. Male submissives are a rare sight at munches or kink parties, while female dominants are more prevalent. Many insist that they can not go without having a date — even to non-play oriented events like munches. While some of it is laziness or entitlement, a lot dommes subs it is a legitimate fear to step outside of what is expected of them as men. Men are told that they have to be dominant, in control, masculine and tough.

To admit to submissive fantasies is hard, to tell a crowd of strangers or act on those fantasies is even harder. Toxic masculinity is to blame here and shows dommes subs our patriarchal society actively harms men as well as women. I often tell a story about showing up at a party, with my date. He was wearing a collar, with the leash in my hand. He was standing behind me, wearing latex shorts and being wonderfully attentive to my needs. A male dominant that I knew approached us and asked my submissive for permission to hug me.

I know many dominant women who have been looking for many years for a submissive boyfriend.

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Personally, I would have spent a lot dommes subs time single, if I were straight, due to the lack of submissive men and even more so compatible ones. There are many more reasons for this perceived imbalance in the ratio of dommes to subs, too many to get into here. I think that ideas about the ratio of dommes to subs cause all sorts of problems. This is negative in a few ways. Women get even more desperate messages, as men who consider themselves submissive compete for attention.

They will spam any and every dominant woman they can find, sending message after message. Often, they send the exact same message every time. On top of that, you get some women who see an imbalance in the ratio dommes subs dommes to subs and decide to take advantage. You will see men asking about paying dommes all the time, with some scams involving money to buy BDSM toys to use at a first meeting that never seems to happen. Of course, in discussions about the ratio of dommes to subs, each side has their own view and each person tooand these discussions can get pretty heated.

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